Question Re Painful Penetration: [painful penetration] [incision]
I was wondering if anyone might have some information about this community problem.
When I have with my husband, its quite painful and sometimes so painful that my husband has to stop. This happens when his penis starts to enter me, I think it would be in the area where if you have a baby and the Dr. gives you, I do not know how to spell the word, so I will say, where the incision would be made the baby to come and help. Ive gone to the Dr. and he gave me a cream that I insert, but thats not the problem, the area near the entrance, when the penis is completely is fine, although many times, Im left with a very sensative area. No, I never had children, but have been married for several years and our marriage is very happy. Has anyone experienced this problem? Should I buy a cream to this area and what to do to make it more plyable. (If thats the right word)
Any advice would be greatly welcomed.
Reply:I have this problem too – pain upon penetration although it subsides when the penis is fully entered – there is still discomfort during sex especially if it is rough, and it hurts afterwards in that perineum area (the bottom bit where the baby incision is made) for a while, a kind of sting.
I went to a specialist and he diagnosed me with vestibulitis – its pain in the vestibule (like the entering 'ring' bit) of the vagina. Difficult to diagnose and difficult to treat unfortunately, do a websearch on vestibulitis or vestibular syndrome and see if it matches your problems.
Tyger.
Reply:… my husband is above average in size and i often wonder if that year we didn't have sex caused me to shrink and that is why i'm having problems. I'm not sure if this will help you.
I was thinking the same thing. I guess it may depend on her husbands girth more than the length. If its at penetration it may not matter if the length is 4 inches or 7 inches. Pain at penetration is probably more related to the girth or thickness.
That may also be your problem. Try having him give you oral before penetration.
Reply:I also have something like what your talking about. My pain starts from the beginning to about midway into my vagina. I feels like an opened wound and someone is pooring salt into it and it only occurs with penetration. I have been with my husband for 15 years, married for 1 1/2 years. this problem started about 3 years ago. I'm in my mid 30's and never had kids. yet. my libido is almost gone too. I'm not sure if they are related or not. also at the time that this started my husband was in an accident and we did not have sex for approx. a year. I did see my gyno who told me that It was probably due to the fact that i have not had children before the age of 30 and my pelvic bones are meeting each other causing a ridge. I can feel internaly with my fingers the ridge they are talking about, but that is not where my pain is. my gyno then sent me to a pelvic floor specialist, they said that I was too tense and causing my muscles to not relax which in turn is being irritated during intercoarse. They sent me to a physical therapist, who 2-3 times a week was doing internal massages while i did kegal excersises. this helped alot but i couldn't stand having this done, it was embarrasing. the therapist said that i could get my husband to do it as foreplay. my husband is above average in size and i often wonder if that year we didn't have sex caused me to shrink and that is why i'm having problems. I'm not sure if this will help you.
Reply:What cream were you given? Was it a lubricant, or an estrogen cream, or something else?
There are a couple of terms you might look up, to see if the symptoms resonate with you: vulvodynia and vulvar vestibulitis. You would probably also benefit from seeing a pelvic pain specialist, which is a subset of gynecology. They're evidently not easy to find, but well worth the effort 
Reply:interesting, i have that problem also. I'd love to know why this happens! With my boyfriend it is the initial entrance that hurts, but once he is in me everything is fine. I don't know why that is, but I thought I would let you know that you are not alone. What works best for me is just to make sure that he goes into me slowly and that I am relaxed. Even then though, I still experience some initial discomfort.
