why wont he have sex with me [intercourse] [prob]
Hi is seeing a guy for one year now and weve done everything together, except intercourse
i dont understand whats going on if I ever mention he does apologize and running, and i dont see him for ages then hell resurface but we do do it we dont do alsorts I thought all men love sex why is he stupid makeing excuses i dont understand that we all did, but I never had this prob can anyone help or know whats going on coz i dont hell
Reply:yeh i think ur right his comeing too quick coz he does after few strokes and licks
he defintly isnt gay
and i think he is scared of me becomeing pregnant which makes me hate him to think he really thinks i want his baby and go that far not to have sex with me coz of that
i have never ever had this with any man in my life ever most men cant wait to have sex with me
he is makeing excuses which is really screwing my head up have,nt seen him for awhile so he can dream now coz i,ve had enough
Reply:Since you say you've done everything I assume he has reached orgasm through oral sex. Is it possible he has premature ejaculation issues and is embarrased for this? In this regard it wouldn't be so much a problem orally but with intercoarse he may feel it makes him inadequate.
Reply:Maybe hes never had sex before? He might be embarrased because of his lack of experience. I think any guy virgin would be nervous about having sex with an experienced girl.
Reply:for the poster above me she said they did everything else. So i would think he wants to make sure she doesn't get pregant, or is afriad to get an STD.
Reply:Many guys can't get it up.
They have low testosterone and/or high estradiol. Either or both can kill the sex drive & performance.
He may need to get his testosterone AND Estradiol E2 levels tested.
The T should be in the upper 1/3 to upper 1/4 of the test range & the E2 should be lower 1/4 to 1/3 of the test range.
If the T is low & the E2 is high the E2 should be lowered first. This usually brings up the T. If it does not come up enough then ask the doc to try HCG self injections of about 1/2cc per injection twice a week. It tells the testicles to produce more testosterone & sperm. If that does not bring up the T levels then I would suggest a 1/2mg of testosterone cypionate injections twice a week, depending on your size & weight.
I do my own injection with a 27ga needle on a 1cc syringe in the thigh, painless. The doc can show you how to inject.
Reply:The answers so far have all suggested good reasons. And here's another one to throw in to the mix: he's afraid you'll get pregnant?
Ultimately, you're going to have to get it out of him though…
Reply:Hi
I kinda did what this guy is doing – i have ocd and i have never really been close sexually with a girl (only once or twice and it was crap) and i have issues with sex, like a fear or avoidence. Don't get me wrong I am sex mad, but when it comes to getting ready for any sex stuff or even the suggestion I get really nervous and I loose the mood and lose my erection.
Now I'm lucky and I've told my partner this and shes helping me out because I realise if I don't get this sorted I'll never experience good sex.
Sorry for the rant but this could be cause of your mans 'avoidence' could be similar to mine, but he isn't prepared to try and fix it – or he might have sexuality issues.
I agree with the people above – you need to ask him, because it doesn't look like he'll tell you soon.
Thanks!
uk_guy
Reply:You know Vicky, we could come up with all kinds of reasons and ideas, but finally you are going to have to ask him.
Reply:Maybe you should point-blank ask him! Is he gay? Does he have physical problems? Does he have mental problems? All men being sex crazy might be an overstatement but something is certainly out of whack here.
Dave 
